tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post1142920119879079763..comments2023-06-26T11:23:50.414+01:00Comments on Black, Woman and Winning!: Mid November: Some more thoughtsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-54022610752461254332012-01-06T00:05:36.124+00:002012-01-06T00:05:36.124+00:00This post was hilarious. Yes indeed. The "m...This post was hilarious. Yes indeed. The "man" is the enemy, but you're all up under his daughter.<br /><br />And you're telling BW to stick with the Brothers. And sadly, too many BW are buying into the crap.Cassienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-33175157399957071122011-12-31T00:23:50.162+00:002011-12-31T00:23:50.162+00:00Goodness, apologies for the typos above- too anxio...Goodness, apologies for the typos above- too anxious to reply, I guess.Musicallenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-88753616879628898982011-12-30T22:55:44.973+00:002011-12-30T22:55:44.973+00:00....I listned to some of the Q&A sessions and .......I listned to some of the Q&A sessions and the anti-marriage female panelist on the far right actually suggested that women get there emotional needs met form female friendships and basically have a series of hook-ups for sexual needs.<br /> The lack of emotional intelligence and connection with reality inherent in that suggestion is stunning.<br />Even the other female( the biracial woman) had to disagree with this. lolMusicallenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-37551024033679310892011-12-07T18:21:43.398+00:002011-12-07T18:21:43.398+00:00When it comes to those BW who are themselves marri...When it comes to those BW who are themselves married out, but are trying to dissuade other BW from doing so, I think there are several factors at play.<br /><br />1. They are trying to keep their Black Card. By attacking the use of IR marriage as a strategy for uplifting BW and black children, they can still be "down" and yet have the comfy upper middle class life in a safe suburb with their white/Asian/etc hubby.<br /><br />2. They are trying to keep some of the less evolved BW out of the fold because these new to IRR women can cause some problems.<br /><br />Frankly, I'm personally really embarrassed at the spate of interviews with BW who are just floored that a grown man might pay for their sandwich on a date! This eye popping wonderment and crowing about how a WM will treat them with the same BASIC, automatic, non-negotiable courtesy that other women get... it's NOT a good look. It's drawing a lot of bottom feeders to BW. It's like throwing a bucket of chum into shark infested waters, attracting the users and abusers of other races to come and prey on BW. <br /><br />For those of us who have been dating out for a long time, we are accustomed to being treated much better than a BW who has been dating Deebo et al. To have to sort through a bunch of raggedy non-black men defeats the whole purpose of dating out. <br /><br />Just being real.joyfulnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-9430204376034780412011-12-06T01:43:20.254+00:002011-12-06T01:43:20.254+00:00GET OUT OF AMERICA
I have travelled extensively i...GET OUT OF AMERICA<br /><br />I have travelled extensively in Europe and have found that my dating pool just opened up. It happens in the cafes, the auditoriums and in school ( I went to teach). And found that I was able to freely date and marry (yes now married) without incident. Not all BW are interested in dating out. Because of that, the pool of available non-black men is sufficient. Good job Halima on the blog. BW have no right being held hostage.<br /><br />Donna Morrone<br />Alsace, FRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-64072917303440498972011-11-30T06:12:22.381+00:002011-11-30T06:12:22.381+00:00I agree that some people can be very out of touch ...I agree that some people can be very out of touch with the reality of black women. I was watching a video the other day of a black couple on the news, addressing RR Banks book. All they had to say was that marriage was for black people because they are married and how they felt IR dating was bad for the community. Still don't realize that when they are done from the interview they go home to cuddle next to each other and their poopooing of interracial options does nothing for black women who have no one.<br /><br />@ Annonymous( not sqalymade)<br /><br />Seriously........let it go. I found nothing wrong with that young lady's comment. I believe you are deeply suspicious and threatened by biracial people and its now beginning to manifest itself as hate and envy. Many of us on here come and give opinions as to what we believe other races of women do and why. its an interracial blog, its expected. if i say i believe asian women do such and such for such and such a reason doesn't mean i want to be an asian woman. esspecially if the comment did'nt even pose asian women in a positive light....how am i possibly backing them up and hating black people.<br /><br />Because you noticed the youngladies profile picture you instantly went on the defensive without even analyzing what she was saying. i'm sure if a pure black woman had said that you wouldn't have cared. i suggest you work out you issues before you have a biracial child, because being insecure and lashing out at others is not going to help. <br /><br />ps. i have two black parents if your're wondering.Out of Darknessnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-3891578649272787812011-11-29T00:06:56.642+00:002011-11-29T00:06:56.642+00:00however in reality there isn’t a bc (there is noth...however in reality there isn’t a bc (there is nothing supporting and protecting bw) so there is nothing to stay in. <br />~squarlymade<br /><br />Amen to the other Anonymous. I think that it was when I watched this video that I realized how much I dont care what the "so called" black community thinks. Another thing, there is a controversy going on between some black women and Tyler Perry over Kim Kardashian. I am so tired of hearing about it. A segment of black women are upset about Kim being a part of his new movie. Who cares? It is his movie and he can put anyone in it that he chooses to. Well these complaining dummies actually made fools of themselves and Tyler Perry wrote a public letter to them. Why is it that black women dont realize that black men dont care about us and that complaining about Kim Kardashian is useless. All it did was peak interest and he is going to make even more money than he would have otherwise. I am so glad that I have detached myself from these issues and that I really dont care.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Amen to other AnonymousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-35820072750421041072011-11-28T23:49:02.426+00:002011-11-28T23:49:02.426+00:00As for mixed and white women, they feel entitled t...As for mixed and white women, they feel entitled to have whomever they want as sex partners as reparations for whatever they think they've suffered at the hands of ligh-skinned blacks and whites.<br /><br /><br />What a bizarre comment. So now mixed raced women speak for white women? Exactly why I am nervous about having a mixed raced child. Secretly hates blacks and wanna be white but fully neither.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-29941875006948455372011-11-28T02:45:04.338+00:002011-11-28T02:45:04.338+00:00hmm, well I see these gate keeper-panelists have d...hmm, well I see these gate keeper-panelists have decided to close the gate, lock it and stand on guard keeping black women ‘inside’ by questioning the validity of even wanting a male legally committed partner…Well damn…I mean I don’t even know how I would have responded to these panelist had I of been there. I will say this to you ladies, there may be closed and locked gates-but there is NO FENCE! So walk right on around and keep skipping in that desired direction. I kept wondering what their motivation for their positions were other than to present themselves as having ‘intellectual thought’ or addressing questions they feel unheard AAwomen may have (are these sincere questions), and then towards the end I heard it loud and clear. ‘But if black women date out, then black men will be doomed for sure’! I’m not happy that they would try to trap black women ‘in’ in this way, however in reality there isn’t a bc (there is nothing supporting and protecting bw) so there is nothing to stay in. <br />~squarlymadeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-42045539159442174842011-11-23T01:39:12.206+00:002011-11-23T01:39:12.206+00:00Very interesting video, thanks very much. I find t...Very interesting video, thanks very much. I find that it is very sad, that we are having this discussion, about what is the best from grown hard back women and it is such a tragedy of the countless years, a lot of women have wasted.<br /><br />Black women have to listen to the Holy Spirit, not pastor, listen to what is good for them, not their mothers, brothers or Auntie Mimie. <br /><br />From too long, we have been drones or worker bees and what have we got out of supporting the black community. We cannot wait for for anyones approval, we have to do what is best for us! <br /><br />Anyone who says, what about the black man, tell them to seek Jesus. Blessings Ladies!ValeriesWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01357307373827441878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-88669518535651254882011-11-22T17:15:30.810+00:002011-11-22T17:15:30.810+00:00Repost since I think I misunderstood Anonymous'...Repost since I think I misunderstood Anonymous' comment:<br /><br />Anonymous- As a biracial woman, I'm in no way appalled by my black mother having married my white father. Sure, mixed and black women are in competition, but so are mixed and mixed, black and black, black and white, black and Asian, etc. If I were trying to prevent black women from "stealing" white men, why would I agree that these negative comments about black men are generally accurate?<br /><br />The fact is that many black men - especially those in academia - think that they're entitled to black women's support while not caring a bit about black women's issues. As for mixed and white women, they feel entitled to have whomever they want as sex partners as reparations for whatever they think they've suffered at the hands of ligh-skinned blacks and whites.<br /><br />What's my motive? I want black men to change. I want mixed, black, and white women to know that they don't have to put up with such terrible treatment by black men. That's all.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11046641822669890457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-26929210159925092562011-11-22T16:55:19.121+00:002011-11-22T16:55:19.121+00:00Anonymous- I'm not quite sure what problem you...Anonymous- I'm not quite sure what problem you have with my comment. At any rate, I grew up more "white" than "black." My father's white, and my mother's black. (And black men seem to be the only people who have ever been disgusted by it.) And I'm not married. So it doesn't look like anything you said about biracial women really applies to me. I'm just honestly throwing in my observations about black male professors I had in the past.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11046641822669890457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-79024852145726685722011-11-22T15:16:54.902+00:002011-11-22T15:16:54.902+00:00Hope your're getting lots of rest Halima!!!Hope your're getting lots of rest Halima!!!Out of Darknessnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-90316361571480296172011-11-22T02:06:57.762+00:002011-11-22T02:06:57.762+00:00I was totally apalled at the statements made by th...I was totally apalled at the statements made by these women and <br />I am not quite sure about the motivations of the biracial woman. It is kinda like these biracial women who are married to white men are used to being the only blacks (or half blacks) at the party and now more black women will be at the party and they dont like it. They feel threatened because they wont be the novelties to white men anymore. It scares people...the thought of white men with black women. White men hold a lot of importance to a lot minority women because they are the head of the food chain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-36523851846736807862011-11-20T16:30:42.270+00:002011-11-20T16:30:42.270+00:00'Speaking of black men and racism, I caught a ...'Speaking of black men and racism, I caught a glimpse of a young black man loudly talking about, 'The man' and 'They dont want us to progress etc etc', to another black man stall owner at a fruit market the other day. I dont know what made me smile more; the big, bold talk about whites and their racism or the white woman by his side with their mixed race baby in the buggy!<br /> <br />'<br /><br />LOL Isn't that always the way?! LOL XD Who's gonna take a guy seriously after seeing and hearing that feces?akhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01821918420194865921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-85979285478302787822011-11-20T04:06:00.916+00:002011-11-20T04:06:00.916+00:00I got sucked into a far-left academe mindset durin...I got sucked into a far-left academe mindset during my undergrad years... but I never got duped into being a race-mule... thanks be to god. <br /><br />It's really embarrassing that there need to be panels and discussions etc to decide if grown black women are free to do as they see fit and tend to their own needs. The very fact that this is up for debate shows just how enslaved most BW are, mentally, to this dead construct. <br /><br />I briefly entertained the idea of studying African-American studies in grad school... but I took one look at the dept and I knew what I was in for. Picture after picture of smug-looking BM and WW who rubbed me the wrong way too. I can only imagine the stress of trying to bring a BWE perspective into a dept like that, and getting a committee of those indoctrinated "educated fools" (nod to Evia!) to approve a dissertation that I would write! No thank you. <br /><br />This is getting long... sorry. Basically I think most black women would be well served to stay away from any hair splitting and ideological round table events... and do only what will directly uplift, enrich and protect themselves and their children. If enough of us do that, our collective lot will improve tremendously.joyfulnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-43565627134906045052011-11-18T14:45:23.503+00:002011-11-18T14:45:23.503+00:00Evia talked about that very same thing. Men teach...Evia talked about that very same thing. Men teaching the women of their community to dress/act a certain way etc. but then will find a woman that is a clear opposite.Welcomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06873814449216446881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-85488940980930559142011-11-18T01:55:39.091+00:002011-11-18T01:55:39.091+00:00I think i understand what you mean when the "...I think i understand what you mean when the "personal is not the political" only for men. The BM in the "Who's zooming who" post, Imran Khan, and also Thomas Jefferson (stateside) is a perfect example of this.Melissa Qnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-76034603724404657312011-11-18T01:48:26.697+00:002011-11-18T01:48:26.697+00:00Interesting post. I've noticed that black men ...Interesting post. I've noticed that black men in academia fully expect their black and mixed female students to tout the race line. And it annoys them so much if the students comfortably talk to white men.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11046641822669890457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-52719981247599513042011-11-15T18:40:45.003+00:002011-11-15T18:40:45.003+00:00This comment has been removed by the author.PVWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12410310404539584350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-60568782116340168952011-11-15T18:40:40.204+00:002011-11-15T18:40:40.204+00:00I must say that when it comes to my academic frien...I must say that when it comes to my academic friends, it depends on where they come from within the academy. <br /><br />Some fields and perspectives come with their own far-lefty-out-of-this world perspectives that have no basis in reality. And when they come from women's studies or black studies, ideology trumps reality--everything must fit the ideology as compared to accurately describing reality in light of the ideology.<br /><br />I'm so glad I was not "brought up" in the former school, but I remain a dedicated follower of the latter.PVWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12410310404539584350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-34273763154936470032011-11-15T12:50:33.606+00:002011-11-15T12:50:33.606+00:00I watched the opening statement videos. Very ivory...I watched the opening statement videos. Very ivory tower and silly IMO. <br />Most of the questions they asked had no relation to the real world situations of most BW. <br /><br />I had to laugh at the fist woman who wondered about the children. Now she is the product of a BWIR and is herself married to a WM and has a son. She is also a college educated and living a middle to upper middle class life. Seems to me her situation did not turn out bad now did it. The kids will be fine.<br /><br />I also had to laugh at the second presenter who worried that woman who engage in BW/non-BM relationships risk marginalization. Say what??? I doubt the BC,which I assume she is talking about, could marginalize any one. <br /><br />When you marry IR you have expanded your world not limited it. So that whole marginalization issue is bunk.<br /><br />This last women was just anti-marriage so no need to even comment on her presentation. The gentleman.....yeah OK. Had nothing to do with me and was really just a discussion of marriage in the abstract.<br /><br />Most of these academics were just picking around the edges of Rick Bank's book. They could not dispute the numbers and that really is what has people up in arms. The stats and the studies to back them up are there. The facts are not good for BW no matter how you slice it and it is up to BW to chart there own course and improve their options.Brenda55noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-28219210862065114722011-11-15T01:00:32.938+00:002011-11-15T01:00:32.938+00:00Ms. Halima, I commend you on this post. Black wome...Ms. Halima, I commend you on this post. Black women of higher education are also "out of touch." I saw this first hand when I attended undergrad and expressed my concerns to the few black women faculty members. They couldn't compute what I was saying, it's as if I was speaking a dead language. Either way, I am elated about the work of Professor Banks, and hope that more women like those whose beliefs are firmly in line with BWE, sound off on their views.Meenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05153292875412825998noreply@blogger.com