tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post1481319550114785583..comments2023-06-26T11:23:50.414+01:00Comments on Black, Woman and Winning!: Why the defaming of the black female image affects youUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-25160534861939821882011-02-04T22:40:09.392+00:002011-02-04T22:40:09.392+00:00Joseph said:
"I don't give a damn what t...Joseph said:<br /><br />"I don't give a damn what the "cultural standards" are among black people for behavior towards black women, there is going to be hell to pay if someone treats my wife like that."<br /><br />I say:<br /><br />Joseph, do you have any brothers that are single?<br /><br />Cause I am looking for this kind of husband. And, I am more than happy to leave behind the dysfunctional BC forever. And unlike the unfortunate wife in the bible, I won't even look back. I won't shed a single tear.<br /><br />You a good man. Your wife has to be happy with her excellent choice.Gerrinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-89956172000424184222011-02-04T16:07:27.611+00:002011-02-04T16:07:27.611+00:00Regina said, about Joesph's comment:
"T...Regina said, about Joesph's comment: <br /><br />"Two, as juvenile as this may seem, omg, I wish I could've seen that! I would have been cheering them on when her husband confronted the security guard, and then when the security lied about what he said and the husband gave him his dressing-down. I hope some other BW got to see it, if nothing else!"<br /><br />I don't know about where the Macy's was, but in the New York City Metro area (the boroughs, Long Island, Northerm NJ, etc.) almost all of the clerks in every Macy's are black women. Same in Philadelphia, where I go once a month to visit my mother. There might have a been a whole bunch of BW getting their eyes (and ears) full on that scene, depending where the Macy's was.Nadianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-3861521544171417332011-02-01T22:21:38.139+00:002011-02-01T22:21:38.139+00:00@Regina I wanted to address your comment. While I ...@Regina I wanted to address your comment. While I understand the sentiment I do not think that would've been a good idea because the point for BW livng well is to NOT experience dangerous situations like what happened.I'm sure you mean well...but this isn't a Tyler Perry movie this is real life. We want NO DRAMA. We don't BW witnessing it either. For BW to move on they cannot be angry, wincing, pining after, begging, wanting to see the humilation of or really wanting anything from any random BM who has not shown by his actions that he's uplifting and supporting BW. In the world of an unindoctrinated BW there is total indifference and she's occupied by fulfilling relationships and activities. If the man such a BW is doing his job he is protecting her, stepping in where necessary from outside aggression NOT reveling in it in any way. Being held accountable is one thing, but this isn't dinner theater. You may take my response for a grain of salt of course.Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07848026271448646032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-84432516152751723232011-01-24T23:11:09.762+00:002011-01-24T23:11:09.762+00:00RE: Joseph F.'s comment -
One, I agree with ...RE: Joseph F.'s comment - <br /><br />One, I agree with these other sisters said, that is, it never would have gotten to the point where his wife had to complain to the no-account security guard, because the chances of that DBR BM saying something like that to a well-dressed WW with a wedding riing on her finger are extremely low. The chances that the DBR BM would then FOLLOW her after she warned him off are even lower, almost non-existent.<br /><br />Two, as juvenile as this may seem, omg, I wish I could've seen that! I would have been cheering them on when her husband confronted the security guard, and then when the security lied about what he said and the husband gave him his dressing-down. I hope some other BW got to see it, if nothing else!Reginanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-19240254108298369852011-01-24T16:25:31.033+00:002011-01-24T16:25:31.033+00:00Reading this post has reminded me of what Khadijah...Reading this post has reminded me of what Khadijah has often said: When Black women partner with Alpha males ( in this case White men), most of our collective problems will dissappear. These men will not allow their women to be disrespected or abused in any way. They will do the fighting for us, much in the same way that White womens' image is protected.<br /><br />Seeing the comments from Eric, Peter and Joseph about how they defend their women gives further credence to what Khadijah is saying.Aishanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-72014187673685374822011-01-23T11:32:45.317+00:002011-01-23T11:32:45.317+00:00NijaG you are correct with your last comment. They...NijaG you are correct with your last comment. They're so transparent and that kind of thing happens alot.aknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-66640320339719768002011-01-22T21:49:26.796+00:002011-01-22T21:49:26.796+00:00@ Anonymous 3:26PM
If I wa going to be alone that...@ Anonymous 3:26PM<br /><br /><i>If I wa going to be alone that was going to be another story.</i><br />...................................<br /><br />It's amazing isn't it? The sense of entitlement many of these BM think they have over BW they don't know. Their sense of self/ego is so fragile that any sense of rejection seems to send them into a rage. This is especially true when it comes to perceived competition with other races/groups of men. <br /><br />I can bet a million dollars that if you hadn't been with your white boyfriend, he probably wouldn't even have tried to talk to you. The whole incident wasn't even about you. If you had reciprocated any form of interest towards him, then he would have gotten the EGO BOOST he needed. <br /><br />There are many BM who like to console themselves with the belief that a BW dating IR is mainly doing so because she couldn't get the type of BM she wanted. That if the right BM came along she would leave the WM she is with. <br /><br />I'm sure there are lots of BW who can attest to the phenom of being generally ignored by BM at mixed social events, then all of sudden after seeing the BW comfortably flirting and mixing around with other races of men, these BM start trying to interact with them.<br /><br />NijaGAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-85846616177218727552011-01-22T15:26:22.647+00:002011-01-22T15:26:22.647+00:00Im happy because this is the first time I am comme...Im happy because this is the first time I am commenting on this board keep up the good work and I love it here. We young black women are listening don't discourage yourself because you show us light us who want to listen.<br />Well Im young 22 years old my boyfried is 24 we've been together for 2 years now his white of course. while we were shopping in the mall , I left him going to use restroom while he was checking for items and a young black male around my age or older a little bite followed me. apparently he was following us the whole time but when i am around the love my life I don't give a flying rats as us of dirty looks especially in the mall. well getting out ladies restroom he stopped me and asked if I was with the white guy Im with and I asked if I know him and he told me right way"I don't understand what a fine ass sister like you is doing with a dorky white boy, u should get with a brotha like me". Well I don't know what come into me even I know what he meant as brotha I responded with a calm attitude: Dude that's just gross no one sleep with brotha that's just an inceste" and worked away. He took it as an insulta and followed me cursing me how I was not too good for him anyway and Im ugly black bitch,that and other profanity I am embarrased to write it on board. My boyfriend saw it and told him if he cursed me one more time he's going to kick his ass in front of everybody. He is a (martial art black belt).Luckly I had a lot of whitness a white male security who witnessed from far and came right away and it turns out he knows my boyfriend and heard a lot about me. He stooped the guy and told him his gonna arrest his ass next time, and he accompanied him outside the mall and told him to never show his face there if he is smart enough. He cursed me and say that I teamed up with whitemen for putting him down, That Im nothing more than a sellout that Im not defending him even though he was harrasing me right away the security and my boyfriend faced him he wanted a protection from a sista<br />he was abusing.He called me a snitch, that that's how I suppose to treat a brotha funny thing how these DBR black male think the world and black women owe them something because they are black. Im happy that I was with a man who cares to protect me. If I wa going to be alone that was going to be another story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-85275914563516683022011-01-22T03:01:26.444+00:002011-01-22T03:01:26.444+00:00When more positive BW come up I think people will ...When more positive BW come up I think people will create two camps "good" and "bad". We can help with this by doing this on an individual level." 2:18 AM<br /><br />Carefully how you separate bw.<br /><br />Just a thought.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-4425080201509667072011-01-21T14:26:04.514+00:002011-01-21T14:26:04.514+00:00Yes Nisha as even Khadija has said loads of times ...Yes Nisha as even Khadija has said loads of times change your image in the same quiet way that Asian women have done because decades ago they used to have that 'Full Metal Jacket' image! Which was a joke and quite whorish. Watch the movie.aknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-63583030600509682272011-01-21T12:51:29.043+00:002011-01-21T12:51:29.043+00:00And oh yeah see this audacity below?:
Joseph F:
...And oh yeah see this audacity below?:<br /><br />Joseph F:<br /><br />She finds me, tells me what happened, and I go back to the security guard with her behind me. I go over with him what she told me, he denies he said<br />either of those two things, and then asked me who am I going to believe, her or him.<br /><br /><br /><br />Who are you going to believe her or him? They're face-ty you see. Proof that DBR BM don't compete with men, but with the women of their own kind. They don't want BW to have dignity, respect, and they truly believe that the whole world loves them and will take up for them and they are more than willing to sacrificae a BW for it. And it's been like this for decades because I have seen it and heard it. It's high time that BW catch a clue and stop looking back at this abomination. Salt is not a good look!aknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-13009332048545576902011-01-21T12:40:45.826+00:002011-01-21T12:40:45.826+00:00What Joseph F described was just the story of my l...What Joseph F described was just the story of my life, THE STORY OF MY LIFE back when I lived in the US especially I'm still sad to say. Because as DBR and as underclass as things have sadly gotten in what used to be especially 'working'-class British society, the black dudes on the street in London 95+ % of the time don't get on top of you; it's hard for even ME to believe but for some reason that part hasn't changed for the worse.<br /><br />But I'm glad that Joseph F compelled to tell his story and I can see it playing out in my head that Joseph was telling the whole truth because I have experienced it enough times way back in the day! One of the worst times is when I was in a Diesel shop in downtown NYC and it seemed like they hired all the black dudes, including the security guard at the door, from the jail or from juvenile hall at least! They had no manners at all but you all know the drill....<br /><br />And I'm glad the guard in Joseph's story got fired, when you work in a shop all you have to do is amke sure the customer gets served well, because that's how the owner's pockets get lined. You don't like it? Then find another job especially when it's not your shop.<br /><br />I've never seen such a set of males so disrespectful to the set of women of their own kind, and I hope in the next lifetime that I won't have to see it or deal with it like that ever again. Nowhere, especially in the western world should things be happening so badly, because some black people like to bring up things in the more backwards, misogynistic eastern countries and use it as an excuse when that's not where THEY'RE living.<br /><br />But this is what you get when black people don't call the cops on criminal and criminally-inclined black people who don't love you or respect you, they only look a lot like you, which means nothing, and it's been long past the time for black women especially to get that through their thick heads.<br /><br />I remeber when Von who has a blog came on to Faith's blog and said she didn't like the way a lot of BWE blogs made it sound like WM were sainted as if they've never put a foot wrong. And I was like 'What?'. Hello? Slavery? Hitler? Jim Crow?<br /><br />Excuses. Excuses. Look white people, especially the white women KNOW that they can't trust every white man that they see around them even when they're surrounded by all white people. But THEY CALL THE COPS and even take the extra steps to form groups together to improve their neighborhoods and even to get through to their state government or beyond to pass laws or change laws. Feminists did this too. I mean the whole cable channel Lifetime is built on TV movies of some white murderer or rapist attacking white women that can't be trusted and therefore must be stopped! They get the other whites that look like them but certainly don't respect them, think like them, nor act like them under control and THAT'S a major difference right now between blacks and whites, and it's been like that for a while. <br /><br />This is why a black poor neighborhood isn't just that, it's also a black poor and DEPRAVED neighborhood just because they don't want to call the police when they see, hear, or know something. Oh no they want to wait till they get up to their eyeballs in gang members, drug dealers, rapists, pedophiles, and juvenile hall teens when they're scared they're gonna be watched going into their local police precinct. And then they have the audacity to open up a paper, or watch the news and say 'What the heck is wrong with these (black) kids today?' Whatever. Get out of Sodom; it's been said PLENTY of times now my dears!aknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-9655915510486843842011-01-21T02:18:15.877+00:002011-01-21T02:18:15.877+00:00I believe that by marring well and NETWORKING and ...I believe that by marring well and NETWORKING and Making powerful allies, it would be easier to stop the negative BW defamation and BM protectionism. BM protectionism is already ending, (the amount of BM in jail). <br /> <br />When more positive BW come up I think people will create two camps "good" and "bad". We can help with this by doing this on an individual level.Lorrnaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06797720719553493360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-87428447385980392822011-01-20T21:34:56.524+00:002011-01-20T21:34:56.524+00:00Kudos to Joseph F for protecting his wife. She'...Kudos to Joseph F for protecting his wife. She's not "lucky" she CHOSE WELL. Unlike Sunda Coonquist. http://actsoffaithblog.com/?p=639 I know the nuances are being applied automatically by most but let it be stated clearly that this is about caliber, not race. Every WM is not a good mate for a BW. Also, it is the unexamined and excused indoctrination of BW that has to be continually evaluated and dismantled. The protection of BW may not be extended to the entire collective worldwide but it can be applied to core smaller groups of individual women who have higher-quality partners that do. The continued protectionism of BM by non-blacks with an agenda at play (letting BW still bear the brunt of the DBR mess) needs to be addressed as well.Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07848026271448646032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-9691554030158102462011-01-20T21:33:51.416+00:002011-01-20T21:33:51.416+00:00As much as I hate to say it, the chances of most b...As much as I hate to say it, the chances of most black women deciding to adopt the point of view of the typical reader of this BWE blog (and other BWE blogs) is very slim to none.<br /><br />Let's not kid ourselves, 95% of our sisters will NOT be joining us on our journey to a good life. With this in mind, it is useless to talk about improving the image of black women in the aggregate. The realistic goal is to hope that people will be acutely aware that there are some black women that are different (in a good way) at some point in the near future.<br /><br />We are a long way from even this modest goal right now.cissynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-22563213953798252242011-01-20T21:13:45.125+00:002011-01-20T21:13:45.125+00:00I agree with this post completely. And I've no...I agree with this post completely. And I've noticed lately that whenthere's a commercial featuring all races, the ONE black woman is always fat. Not just big, but very big. The latest Orbit gum commercial for example. I've seen this play out way too many times.harmonynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-75092952248693468002011-01-20T14:43:22.542+00:002011-01-20T14:43:22.542+00:00(SIGH)
I agree, Halima, this overall negative per...(SIGH)<br /><br />I agree, Halima, this overall negative perception of BW affects all of us in a million ways, some of which we individually will never be aware of, because the effect will not be a reaction that is noted and acknowledged, but instead will be what business people refer to as "opportunity cost", that is, an opportunity that would have presented itself under optimal conditions, but instead is never offered.<br /><br />I don't have an answer, either.<br /><br />I'll tell you one thing though. That comment by Joseph F made my head hurt. One DBRBM looking out for another, and let's just forget about the BW's rights and feelings. SMDH.Bernadettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-18985796814097145752011-01-20T11:09:40.331+00:002011-01-20T11:09:40.331+00:00Neecy
I just finished reading your last comment n...Neecy <br />I just finished reading your last comment now lol! hit me up on email and lets have a chat!Halimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13400009793511308799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-63235316689742880642011-01-20T10:38:01.485+00:002011-01-20T10:38:01.485+00:00@Joseph F, your story exemplifies the reason why I...@Joseph F, your story exemplifies the reason why I will only date white men. You elevate and protect what you love!!! It is a cultural norm among your men. It is practically unheard of in the black diaspora!! I have also noticed in my travels that in countries where white men freely date black women, black males wanting to date black women have to step up their game, and even then they often fail to make the grade. As more and more non black men OPENLY cherish and revere black women, our carte blanche will also increase!!XaiXaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10500325463779443784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-19079455977009071472011-01-20T02:18:16.770+00:002011-01-20T02:18:16.770+00:00To Joseph, Good for you and that is what a good hu...To Joseph, Good for you and that is what a good husband does, protects his wife.<br /><br />DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-43847253087148921062011-01-20T01:32:37.294+00:002011-01-20T01:32:37.294+00:00I like the idea of starting a media movement. I be...I like the idea of starting a media movement. I believe a way to develop a positive image would help, I believe the best way would be to start online. Also, you could fund it with advertising. There are many BW indie companies that make products directed only to BW and natural products.Lorrnaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06797720719553493360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-1231104654243482692011-01-19T23:49:06.449+00:002011-01-19T23:49:06.449+00:00"I think the only way this will change is mor..."I think the only way this will change is more black women individually choosing non-BM mates who will then cherish and protect their image and physical well-being on an individual basis, until finally, there will be so many individual black women that have doen this that it will then be a large group. Then the collective image will start to turn around."<br /><br />this is the best way to go about real change. instead of trying to change the minds of a collective group, it's better to go about it on an individual basis. slowly but surely, the chains will start to move up.Erichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17737697654245299902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-61434947452575877802011-01-19T22:07:04.091+00:002011-01-19T22:07:04.091+00:00Joseph F and the other WM...this is my most recent...Joseph F and the other WM...this is my most recent video...I think it was on time. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wif7a9rgi0cPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17936377178754547710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-34077360637024989972011-01-19T21:42:23.677+00:002011-01-19T21:42:23.677+00:00Halima...if you don't mind can I mention your ...Halima...if you don't mind can I mention your blog in my next video? I'll put up a link for it too. :o)Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17936377178754547710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29718807.post-83319606821025355032011-01-19T21:29:47.195+00:002011-01-19T21:29:47.195+00:00Truuth be told, in his instance, it's not just...Truuth be told, in his instance, it's not just the media and popular culture, he is surrounded by people saying negative things about black women because he is an executive with one of the professional sports leagues (no, not the NHL, lol), and so he spends a lot of work time and off-work time with a lot of black guys who also work there as executives. Yeah, he is besieged by anti-BW sentiment.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />You know this is interesting and I was afraid that this is what it was...I think it should start clicking in some of these WM head's that many of these same BM also lay with their sisters and nieces!<br />Or wanna lay with them.<br />A lesson needs to be taught also about how many BM love to break down a BW's image. To keep WM away. Not to focus on BM but to understand the dynamic--at least on a basic level and recognize what is happening. <br />BM wouldn't make such comments *IF* it did not work on WM minds. It worked for a while but I think the spell is just now starting to break... great video to make....Hmmmmmmmmm. (Also evidently this *spell* did not work on all WM!!!! just thought I make a note of it.)Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17936377178754547710noreply@blogger.com