Tuesday, March 15, 2011
The Sickness that is Black male Culture and Other things...
There is a sickness at the heart of black male practiced black culture.
It is for the very fact that black women are trying to continue to team with black men and to be one culture with them, to connect and incorporate black men into their plans and strategies, that the black female life giving expression of black culture is struggling, in fact has become disfigured and almost unrecognizable for the affirming thing it once was.
Instead of separating out and thus preserving the wholesomeness of the black culture as practiced by black women, by a series of compromises, made so that black men and women ‘can be together in this,’ black women have allowed evil and things that are not supposed to be mentioned in the same sentence as black culture to creep in and now define them and their cultural expression. They have in their desperation to 'team' with black men, made themselves agree with and validate evil and black negating activities as 'all part of valid and genuine black cultural output', all for the sake of having black men along.
See black female culture is life giving, it values blackness and sees it as positive thing to be preserved, but because black women have refused to separate themselves from the self serving, black negating evil that a significant majority of black men practice as their black culture and by trying to 'compromise' so that black men and women can be ‘in one fold’, what black women now have is a severely corrupted expression of blackness.
This is why black women now do things shocking to all, things you wouldn’t ever believe possible from a woman, just becvause she is trying to align and be in with the black men, and thus is following him down into the mud.
Indeed look at what constitutes black male culture:
Worship of white/whiter flesh
Subjugating everything and everyone to the black male ego (black male supremacy). Everything to and for the use of the glory and personal enjoyment of the black men!
A requirement of blind worship from black women
Utter disregard for the continuation and health of the next generation
Destruction of the future (gang rape culture, family abandonment, indiscriminate impregnating)
Trading on notions of ‘black inferiority’ for personal gain/forsakeing black dignity and pride (mandingo etc)
Extreme self serving
Pure machismo and the crushing of the female spirit and the destruction of any goodness that should come from the female.
Because black women have let black men set the tone and the parameters, the whole of black cultural expression has ended up in the gutter. Indeed when black men have kicked the ball into the gutter, black women have gone into the gutter to try to play a game ‘within the parameters’ of the gutter as decided by black men. When black men have kicked the ball into the water black women have jumped in to try to ‘play’ in the water, when black men have kicked it into the fire, black women have jumped into the fire.
This is the black culture as practiced by black women
A love and healthy appreciation for blackness
A concern for the future of black people/ Nurturing of the next black generation
Striving to love and appreciate uniquely black features even against the tide
Willingness to make personal sacrifice for the greater good
Diligence in investing for the uplift of black people
As long as black women continue to desperately try to be ‘a team’ with black men, they will continue to move away from their ‘life giving’ and nurturing functions, as black male culture drags them to the bottom!
It is time for black women to ensure that when you see a black man and black women, there is a prompt recognition that, yes we might be of the same color, but we are of two disctinct cultures!
The Current Black Set up has nothing for black women
The current black set up has nothing, I repeat, nothing for black women, though they try so hard to convince themselves it does! Black women want to convince themselves they feel secure and accepted in black circles, but when was the last time you a black woman felt accepted and belonging in black circles, if it wasn’t your manufactured emotions of happiness?
I spent many years attending ‘black churches’ and each Sunday I knew my mask dare not slip!
In the midst of black circles and black networks, if we are really real, we know that we have to maintain a certain impression or else we are in deep trouble. Everything is controlled, your lines are fed you and if you even go off the accepted ‘discourse’ a fraction of a millimetre, the black sheep dogs (usually an older, sharp tongued bw) get you.
I had a chance over the weekend to reconnect with a ‘group’ of bw from the church I once attended. Do you know folks, I felt such a sense of relief to be ‘liberated’ from them, their mutual urging each other on in their pretence and in finding status in those things that mean so much to black people (but are totally meaningless). I really thanked the creator as i felt exhausted even thinking about the energy, I expended trying to maintain my membership as a good black woman.
Black women frequent black clubs were if they are not 'lightskinned,' they are pretty much invisible, they visit black comedy events to be grievously insulted but yet these same women will swear up and down how black circles are the ones where they feel supported and were they feel belonging, and they don’t want to go into ‘mainstream’ networks because they will feel left out.
It is amazing how the mind can hold on to a notion that no longer remains true in ones circumstances.
The mind is a powerful thing and can be used to great foolishness!
Wondering about Interracial dating?
I have written an E-book that gives a comprehensive insight into the relationship reality facing black women today, including her Interracial Dating Option. Get yourself clued up!
Questions to be sent to: firstname.lastname@example.org
Posted by Halima at 3:51 pm