My heart is thoroughly warmed when I see indepth and on point analysis like the following especially from someone so young:
1. Black women and girls have the basic right, clearly accessible/demanded by other women to feel safe in the neighborhood they live in by the immediate removal of criminals and other delinquents who greatly decrease the likelihood of safety for black women in particular.
2. Black women and girls have the basic right to be feminine, to appear feminine, and to dress feminine without being considered a threat to white women's "feminine supremacy", or being brutally harassed to remind us that we "are not like other women", and that we should be treated/have access to less than, because of our skin color.
3. Black women and girls have the right to exercise the same standards other women in society exercise without being called "sellouts" for not subjecting themselves to financial/and or sexual exploitation.
4. Black women and girls have the right to say whatever needs to be said until conditions in their communities and direct vicinity improve, including being honest about the circumstances and attitudes within them without fear of being called "traitors" for their honesty.
5. Black women and girls have the right to expose the belief that it is their responsibility to protect, defend, provide for, and uphold the honor of men who go through great lengths to make sure that black women are NOT protected, that they are NOT defended, that they ARE NOT considered worthy of honor, and that they SHOULD NOT be provided for. Black women and girls have the right to acknowledge that this role reversal that exists in black communities has not been acceptable in any other society on the planet regardless of these societies racial and class based circumstances.
6. Black women and girls have the right to love, to be loved, to be treated as human beings effortlessly.
7. Black women and girls have the right to expose the hypocrisy that only includes them in "diversity" if they are used as props to make others feel superior and are an immediate threat when they are not.
8. Black women and girls have the right to expose the hypocrisy that liberal and progressives take on to be starch racists against black women because they think it's harder for black women to prove it.
9. Black women have the right to expose the sabotage of racist white women who view them as a threat through manipulation, cattiness, and other behaviors camouflaged in a sugary sweet fake persona, particularly in the workforce.
10. Black women and girls have the basic right to expose the lie that black female bodies are inherently for being devalued, and therefore, says our bodies are too "trashy" and "demanding attention" when we dress in the typical way other women are allowed to dress.
To have such insight and be able to articulate and analyse the black female situation with such accuracy giving the pushes and pulls of the myriads of other inetersts and discourses that shout 'Me first' and elbow black women's interests out of the way because it clashes with their priviledges, is indeed a rare gift and one I came into well into my adult years.
With the likes of these coming up, I might be able to retire to my farm soon!
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Oh yes she is the BOMB. I have read lots of her discussions. But have you read her "What if White women were Black women" one? Whew is all i can say.
AMEN SISTA It's ABOUT TIME SOMEBODY said this {We're ALL Daughters of EVE} and should feel free to be and act feminine like all other ethnic groups do
It is such an extreme honor to be referenced on your blog! I remember when I first found your blog, and quietly lurked as a senior in college, I think I came upon it around the time "Ruminations of a Racial Realist" was around, but I found you, Evia, and then blackwomenvote and woad, Khadija and so forth in addition.
So I think/hope there are lots of us lurkers out there who read your blog and just work on ourselves, grow, and reach out to other women. This is how all movements are made!
Thank you again, and a million times over!
I like how all the women bloggers come at you with similiar messages but with a different flavor so that everyone can understand and be educated at the same time. There is no excuse why a young lady living in a bad area could understand that she has the right to her body at all times and no reason why an older woman cannot reclaim her body and femininity again. Every point made in that post was valid, having grown up in a bad neighborhood I feel for the young girls now who may not be strong enough to wade through unlike me who had a mother who would occasionally remind rogue males who got to close that she had a pistol and would deal with them accordingly if her daughter was mistreated (lol) I had to tell her a few times to sit down mama ain't nobody got no bail money for you (lol)
Thank you for posting this, and for this link to that great blog.
I saw this and thought it was overall a good piece. She clearly put much thought into it. Good on you for spreading it wider afield!
@Bellydancer -
My mother grew up in the country in Texas, and she also carried a pistol around with her (which she never used, by the way - she wasn't crazy or anything). I've heard other people say this out West since I was a girl, but the very first time I heard it was from my mother:
"God made some men big, and God made some men small, but Mr. Colt made them all equal".
It translates well to the typical woman's situation, since a man of even average strength is still stronger than 99% of all women.
A pistol tends to back a bad man up pretty quick.
I'm not crazy, either, but this black woman is not going to let anybody abuse her or mistreat her for any reason.
You're big and bad? You want to knock me around? Uh-huh.
I guess it will be my trial, your funeral. Just sayin'.
Yvette -
OMG, girl, I love you!
I know some people will read what you wrote and think that's just crazy talk, that it's just over the top, but your mother was a wise woman.
And yours, too, Bellydancer.
Why is it that BW have to live in fear of almost everything if they live in a black neghborhood? Why are BW victimized over and over again by BM? If the men in a community won't protect women from predators, then the women have to take steps to protect themselves.
She is telling all TRUTHS.
What she wrote should be reproduced eveywhere, and given to every 12 year-old black girl.
And, Yvette, you are awesome. Would love to hang with you and your bad self. I'm tired of these useless knee-grows acting with impunity against black women and black girls. The only time I ever feel like a second-class citizen is when I'm in a blcak neighborhood, not when I'm out in the rest of the world. Black women are not valued or respected in the BC.
Those outlines should be posted in our bedrooms and bathrooms as reminders. Great Post.
lois
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