Well folks another black woman has been killed in a fight over a jailed man. This time in a high speed car chase. A few years ago there was a similar sad incident involving black women fighting over a black man who was in prison resulting in the death of I believe, a pregnant black woman.
Fancy that folks, the way these women are fighting over jail birds, you would think these men were Saudi princes with billions to their name, not some guy who is very possibly dependent on them or at least leaning heavily on them for support and upkeep while behind bars. Imagine the drain on finance and on emotions for a woman in such a relatioship! CONTD After the JUMP
Attention Attention Aimee has a new Post!
SNIPPETS OF AIMEES POST.... his chapter headings suggest (“Soiled”; “Media: Hollywood, Phillis, and Halle”; “Black Women are Gold Diggers”; “Sisters Have an Attitude”), facing the significance and practical implications of their love of whiteness is difficult for many black men. Instead, these emotions are channeled into loathing of black women, which is justified by cataloging black women’s myriad “shortcomings.” This allows black men to claim to be proud and self-loving, while simultaneously adoring and esteeming all things white.
SNIPPETS OF AIMEES POST.... ...They may not have gained real access to equal work, equal pay, equal wealth or equal opportunity; but black men have gained access to the bodies of white women. In the face of so many losses, possessing a white or non-black woman feels like a sufficient win for many black men. Thus, black men embrace the pornified Big Black Brute role that at least grants them psychological dominion over women in search of titillation and sexual adventurism--all while the “community” languishes....
SNIPPETS OF AIMEES POST.... ....But racio-misogyny does not only ensnare and victimize black men. It also controls the hearts and minds of the “loyal opposition,” i.e., brainwashed black women, who play a crucial role in enforcing the “community’s” Anti-Black Woman agenda. It is black women who actively degrade and insult dark-skinned black women while treating light-skinned women with almost worshipful admiration (go to any black “entertainment” website to see examples of the mocking belittlement that the Williams Sisters, Naomi Campbell, Tamika Raymond, Foxy Brown, etc. are subjected to, vs. the unquestioning adoration reserved for Rihanna, Beyonce, Alicia Keys, or the latest “exotic” video vixen/“jumpoff”). It is black women who attack and demean black women who seek child support and active fathering for their children as “gold diggers” and evil nags. It is black women who denigrate unwed black mothers for their OOW childbearing, as if such women conceive through the process of Immaculate Conception. It is black women who attack black women who date/marry interracially, while defending the interracial mating prerogatives of black men. Thus, we witness the sad and bizarre spectacle of black women (most of whom are not and never will be married), living vicariously through morally questionable white women like Kim and Khloe Kardashian, Kendra Baskett, Nicole “Coco” Austin, and Vanessa Bryant, based solely on these women’s relationships with black men.
SNIPPETS OF AIMEES POST.... It is absolutely crucial for black women who want the healthy, happy lives that they deserve to recognize that the very foundation of the currently formulated black community is constructed around the devaluation of black women and children. It is no more and no less. Loyalty to this community requires disloyalty to your own well-being and your very survival as black women. This is not simply a matter of who you date or marry, though one’s choice of mate is a crucial factor in the ability to escape this quagmire. The same caution and discretion must be exercised in one’s choice of friends, acquaintances, neighbors, business and professional colleagues, and even those members of your family who you choose to include in your life. Detaching from this dysfunctional, pathological community must be job one!
SNIPPETS OF AIMEES POST.... ...They may not have gained real access to equal work, equal pay, equal wealth or equal opportunity; but black men have gained access to the bodies of white women. In the face of so many losses, possessing a white or non-black woman feels like a sufficient win for many black men. Thus, black men embrace the pornified Big Black Brute role that at least grants them psychological dominion over women in search of titillation and sexual adventurism--all while the “community” languishes....
SNIPPETS OF AIMEES POST.... ....But racio-misogyny does not only ensnare and victimize black men. It also controls the hearts and minds of the “loyal opposition,” i.e., brainwashed black women, who play a crucial role in enforcing the “community’s” Anti-Black Woman agenda. It is black women who actively degrade and insult dark-skinned black women while treating light-skinned women with almost worshipful admiration (go to any black “entertainment” website to see examples of the mocking belittlement that the Williams Sisters, Naomi Campbell, Tamika Raymond, Foxy Brown, etc. are subjected to, vs. the unquestioning adoration reserved for Rihanna, Beyonce, Alicia Keys, or the latest “exotic” video vixen/“jumpoff”). It is black women who attack and demean black women who seek child support and active fathering for their children as “gold diggers” and evil nags. It is black women who denigrate unwed black mothers for their OOW childbearing, as if such women conceive through the process of Immaculate Conception. It is black women who attack black women who date/marry interracially, while defending the interracial mating prerogatives of black men. Thus, we witness the sad and bizarre spectacle of black women (most of whom are not and never will be married), living vicariously through morally questionable white women like Kim and Khloe Kardashian, Kendra Baskett, Nicole “Coco” Austin, and Vanessa Bryant, based solely on these women’s relationships with black men.
SNIPPETS OF AIMEES POST.... It is absolutely crucial for black women who want the healthy, happy lives that they deserve to recognize that the very foundation of the currently formulated black community is constructed around the devaluation of black women and children. It is no more and no less. Loyalty to this community requires disloyalty to your own well-being and your very survival as black women. This is not simply a matter of who you date or marry, though one’s choice of mate is a crucial factor in the ability to escape this quagmire. The same caution and discretion must be exercised in one’s choice of friends, acquaintances, neighbors, business and professional colleagues, and even those members of your family who you choose to include in your life. Detaching from this dysfunctional, pathological community must be job one!
Halima's article CONTD here
I guess I now understand why at the beginning of the year there were all these highly eductaed and high achieving black women demanding that the government open the prison gates and release black jail birds to their warm embrace! Apparently these women are only just catching up on the trend that has been in place for some time now, because according to this study, the only segement of black men increasing their marriage rates are those in prison! (Thanks Felicia for the research)
Lawdy Lawdy!
The Black Community has so totally screwed with black women's mentality, that now incacerated black men are a prize to be had. Indeed while other women go after men who can provide for them, black women are digging in the gutters for men who will no doubt be a mighty drain on their resources and with a high probability of passing on to them an incurable disease!
But then again, I am not suprised that these men are rushing to offer black women the ring (now that they find themselves in the predicament which I am sure is how it works). You see unlike 'wilfully blind to how the game is played' bw, everyone else is looking for the best 'deal.' Because marriage is being 'withhed' by the wider body of black men, it has become a real comodity for bargaining.
You can from this 'transaction' of a ring in exchange for 'you carryng me financially and bear all the burden for the family alone' 'infer' what the worth of the black woman is ( I am convinced that even the ring and tuxedo and whatever else will be bought by the black woman!). Indeed never mind how it will be spun as black woman doing her bit for the race, her labour of love lol! Its always the simple minded bw who goes to bed with a goofy smile on her face, thinking she has something out of the deal when it is the others that have something tangible to show and she just has...well some nice good feelings to warm her heart. Bless her.
This again is all inl ine with, as I have argued previously, the trend of black men offering minimal towards the efforts to sustain the black family (I have said before that when you tally what the current crop of black men have put towards the whole 'idea' of black uplift and black unity' etc, it is really simply the male gamet or to be blunt sperm!) as well as the rise and the endorsement of any social dynamic in which black women are squeezed of their resources and drained for the use of third parties (resourcing broke down brothas).
We have all heard variants of the saying that when a black man is down and out or looses his fortune, he suddenly remembers 'sistas'. Well I guess this study adds credibility to what was simply a 'saying'
And the truth is black women do actually feel that this is their worth no matter how they try to wrap it up as them doing something 'transcending' and selfless.
Marriage clearly has become black men's commodity, any wonder then they are withholding it and holding out for the best deal, of course all the while claiming they can't marry because of their socio-economic situation and how they 'have it hard' and all that (well that excuse has been shot to pieces given that the black men increasing their marriage rates are on the bottom of the socio-economic scale!).
It is absolutely crucial for black women who want the healthy, happy lives that they deserve to recognize that the very foundation of the currently formulated black community is constructed around the devaluation of black women and children. It is no more and no less. Loyalty to this community requires disloyalty to your own well-being and your very survival as black women - Aimee
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