Black unity proponents would want us to believe
this is how black men and women are positioned towards each other
This is really how bm and bw are positioned
re each other; black women in supplicatory posture begging
for black men to be with them and help them build black unity
They (black unity proponents) will need to explain how building a thriving black group can be possible given this situation. When black unity proponents (people who preach about blacks coming together) try to recruit you or get you sympathetic tothe idea of black people coming together, try not to enagage with their idea 'emotionally' try instead to pin it down realistically by looking at what the situation/conditions are now and how these either make the goal possible or impossible.
Many folk run around talking black unity, fixing black people etc without enagaing with the idea on a relaitic level, its a fun idea an emotionally warm idea to them and so it remains, just an illusion!
A recent study on the UK Riots
A few days ago I caught the late news show on the BBC discussing a study on the recent riots that happened in the UK. The guardian newspaper had done a study and the interpretations of the study were that it was all about people feeling discrimnated against (well a good portion of them anyway), by police who got a dishonorable mention. The counter argument which I think is pretty solid is that of course they would be unhappy with police given that 2/3rds had criminal records anyway!
Anyway the main thing that caught my attention was the little clip they showed of the 'peaceful' demonstration that acted as the spark for the riots. The clip showed as we can all guess by now, a lot of irate black women chanting, 'what do we want...', 'when do we want it...'
It is not I suppose any suprise to readers of this and other black women empowernment blogs that black women are always in the forfront of all these 'defend bm' activities (the young black man who was shot and whose death triggered the whole riots was actually mixed race but I am not sure which parent is white) despite that fact that they are disproportionately victims of black men and no black man would ever put together a protest on their behalf.
Anyway to me the main thing that stood out was that these women were demonstrating essentially because the police had done the shooting. I say this because there is a high homicide rate in that area. Black boys kill each other at a alarming rate yet apart from the yearly peace walk, I dont see black women taking to the streets. The other thing is that the most recent police shootings have actually been of white men, yet we havent yet seen whites mobilize and put on a 'protest' of some sort. It seems that black women and the men in the protest march are saying that black young men are not to be shot by police under any circumstances (indeed they can kill each other but police should not!). This is very concerning because under certain circumstances, the police are allowed to use lethal force. For instance if I walked into a supermarket waving a gun and if I refuse to be talked out of my actions that I can expect that the police will look to use lethal force at some point, thus it isnt really valid to demonstrate against a police shooting, that is unless it has been investigated and found that the person was unlawfully killed. By the time there was a protest march no invetsigation had been done around the circumstances for the shooting! Instead of waiting to find out how and why Mark Duggen was shot, folk took to the street in a 'peaceful protest'. Peaceful protest of what I ask?
The truth is sections of the society are allowed to have juvenile responses and the failed black leadership show they are failed by refusing to challenge this behaviour. Instead they have joined in a wrong headed activity that has lead to the losse of lives, home and property and smeered the image of the UK.
What I overheard in the Library
It seems to me that racism has come to be popularly defined as not letting black men get their way!
I was at my local library the other day and overheard two Asian school girls talking vigorously about how racist some parents were for not wanting their daughter to marry or date a black guy. Now I dont know the details, it could even be that the parents were worried because of traits they had seen in the boy and not necessarily because of the color (it happens but this worry about the person is always conflated with parents being racist because of color). The way these young girls were going on like these parents are just the scum of the earth and 'ewwwww', you could have thought it had something to do with them personally. They seemed pretty cut up about it all!
It took me back to a time when on a bus I heard three black girls make a comment along the same lines ie that someone was racist for not letting a black guy date them or something of that nature, and you know what the amazing thing was here, this comment didnt come out of the blues, it was prompted when an interracial couple made up of a black school girl and a white school boy passed by our stationary bus. This sight was so uncommon in those days and still is now, that it spurred a discussion, but rather than this discussion being about black grils themselves eg how black girls are not dating white boys or racism affecting black girls, these girls immediately started the discussion from the point of black boys naturally and automatically as if it just wasnt something about them and their issue too!
I remember feeling worried that at that age black girls had learned to write themselves out of the picture so swiftly. This was a clear instance for them to put themselves in the frame but they brushed it aside and centered black boys and their problems in dating white girls (which cant be that much give the levels of interracial dating between black boys and white girls then and now).
Black boys have carried out a real effective PR campaign for some years now that they are the victims especially when people dont let them have their way.
I am sure those Asian girls have come across black boys who say they dont date black girls and trash black girls in their presence (because it is a comon affair now), yet somehow in peoples minds this does not register as racism, i dont hear the wider society, white girls even Asian girls critique this comom attitude in black boys, instead the same black boys are 'victims' when others shun them. Indeed I am yet to hear one outside voice comment on this foul behaviour (except a few white men in private forums) insetad the black boys are always victims of others even as chief victimizers themselves.
Very curious very curious!
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