Many black women claim they want change in their lives and their circumstances. However, they continue to apply the same principles and believe the same views and ideas and explanations that will simply reproduce the lack and the frustration that they see attend the lives of their older sisters and indeed currently attends theirs.
To get the best out of the black female empowerment movement in the first instance:
(a) You must be willing to shift in your mentality-Surely if you are not experiencing any success using a particular approach or frame of mind etc, then it is time to change something!
(b) You must steel yourself from feeling you are being a traitor for revaluating/debating certain sacred black views/beliefs about black men, black community, how to be a true black woman
BWE will debate things that make your first reaction be, ‘This is taboo talk for black women’. But you must be willing to hear the debate out and to push past this block and fear of being a traitor, sell out or whatever term is used. Often the word sell-out are used as a tool to prevent black women from getting at the truth of their situation. We have seen it so many times and it is quite effective because black women take a large part of their identiy from being ‘devout’ black women.
You can always reject a discussion/debate after you have heard what BWE have to say, but blocking out the discussion in the first instance will not pay you especially in these times when black women are being deliberately mislead so that others can continue to harness their resources, time etc etc (black women serving simply as rescources for their race).
c) You must be willing to step back and have a look again at the instructions you are issued with as a black woman especially from others from you community.
Many black women do not recognise that, it is the game and the rules they are confining themselves to, that results in the problems, not the amount of effort they are putting in.
Black women are constantly trying to ‘put their back into’ the next 'project' suggested for the 'uplift of black people' yet they are flawed. If a model, a concept, a framework an ideal is not ‘adding up’, then no matter how much you struggle to make it work, it just won’t.
Take a moment to think about it.
e) You must have an identity or start to construct one that is broader than a race based identity.
Many black women are simply 'race-women', 'sister soildiers', always in the state of battling for the race etc. Unfortunately this is not going to serve black women and I can tell you for sure that even black men are running away from 'sister soildier' type black women except of course they need help on the black-white front. Black women's identity as race women means they bear considerable amount of anger, that makes living in a multicultural context very difficult, because they become aggressive, bitter etc etc.
Question: 'Do you think that black women should bear more anger for the black situation? ' Why do black women seem to be the one carrying the most anger against whites etc and socially isolating themselves as a result?
f) Obsolete beliefs will need to be weeded out- For instance, the simple formular of 'internal community = security' while 'external community = threat', no longer applies in the case of black women. Yet many black women are operating in this mindset and then wondering why they have so many scars and heartaches.
If you doubt that 'internal community' has become more lethal for black women than out of it, check the statistics on violence against black women and note from where the majority of it comes.
Many black women continue looking outwards for predetors and misusers when they are living right there amongst them in their 'communtities'.
Observe and take note! Stop walking around not noting things around you and drawing conclussions that are so obvious.
In truth, many black women do not want to see because they know if they decide to really look they will see something that goes against everything they have been told to hope for.
There has been a regime change which black women have been shielded from observing by black community information portals, because it would shake their conmmittment to continuing to toil in the 'trenches' as the only willing horse left trying to make a difference to the black condition.
By not observing the times and the changes in her circumstances and trusting in old views and by gone version of events, black women have moved to a very vulnerable position within the current social set up.
(g) A black women must learn to gather intelligence on her situation by carrying out a reconnaissance of her situation and surroundings, than think that any general assumptions, and 'stand to reason' notions will simply and automatically apply in her case.
Many black people say to you, ‘just go out there and find a black man for you’, or give the impression that it is the most normal, natural thing for black men and women to end up together. Many of these are not in touch with localised dynamics which have emerged over 2 decades that makes black women ending up married to black men something no longer assured or guaranteed.
I cannot overemphasis the fact that many everyday expectations and taken for granted beliefs might not apply and no longer come into play for black women.
The black community is asking you in many cases to work ‘models’ that are just not working, non-yielding, non-applying, obsolete or irrelevant (remember what we said about the black consensus being in error state and thus issuing erroneous injunctions and instructions to black women)
So if the community says to you, ‘find a black man’
Report back from your gathering of intelligence, ‘The black men here are not really interested in settling down!’
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Further reading for black women seeking the truth!
Enslaved to race
Racio-misogyny or the racism practiced against black women by black men
We talk 'Africa' but prefer our women 'not too' African
A Latin Wins and time to wake up
Playing with numbers to hide the dire situation
Black women need to know their compass is being confused
Hating white men has got black women stuck
Who says white men cannot successfully carry on relationships with bw
Yet black men’s interracial marrieges remain is the most unstable of all
Extinguishing self care in black women
The right terms give us understanding
Questions and answers
Chart your own course, save yourself!
Those waiting for permission to survive will not make it
The church also preparing black women for a life of matrydom
Where are you on the time frame
Young black girls left to fend for themselves
Why I don’t take the normal position of 'white men are evil'
Black unity talk is just…talk
Black women made Civil Rights Movement yet were ill compensated